Book: The Benefits Of The “Ex”: Making Love Visible When Everything Changes
Q1. Hello Ma’am, can you please introduce yourself? Readers would love to know more about you.
June Dillinger is an Inspirational Speaker and Life Facilitator whose gifts lie in her ability to guide others so that they can live abundantly and be happy. Adopt- ed at birth she grew up in La Jolla, California, where she was cherished by her parents, a physical therapist who met her physician father when he was being treated for his paraplegia. Even though that family dissolved, through divorce and remarriage, through birth and life and death, June’s extended and expanded families have enriched her understanding of the dynamics of love.
June has been blessed with the ability to see the true inner beauty of the human spirit, despite outer appearances. June moved to Hawaii and has resided on Oahu for over 30 years. Hosting the television show “It’s All About Love,” has allowed her to interview a multitude of inspiring thought-leaders over the years. As a presenter, she is able to captivate audiences with her unique background and inviting message for all ages. Her uplifting message transcends the static of our digital age and rises over the roar of the crowd. Her topics tug on the heart- strings of the human condition by speaking directly to the emotional well-being of her audience members. Her heartfelt stories and wisdom are grounded in the fact that we must face our own connections with each other, with the divine, and most importantly within ourselves. Self-Love is slowly diminishing in our Western culture and June is on a mission to change that. Her book “The Benefit of the Ex” teaches us how to remember to let go of the past, and that every- thing in life–good and bad– is setting us up for our own comeback story.
Q2. What were the key challenges you faced while writing ‘The Benefits of the “Ex”: Making Love Visible When Everything Changes’ book?
Several things became challenging during the coarse of writing this book. First, the pressure I received from people over the LONG 14 years to hurry up and complete it. I knew there was a message and I also knew it had to be clear in order for people to grow if they were to pick up my book. I waited life out as the book unfolded within me so I could share in a way that would be uncomplicated and useful at the same time. Part of the struggle was having created 3 different manuscripts over time, lead me to blend and create what the book is today and this was no easy task at all.
Q3. What books or authors have most influenced your own writing?
Self-help books have always been a go to for me. In no particular order a few of my most favorite and impactful, in no particular order…
1. Teach Only Love by Jerry Jampolsky
2. Real Love by Greg Baer
3. The Values Factor by Dr. John Demartini
4. Hard Optimism by Price Pritchett
5. Awareness by Anthony De Mello
6. Spiritual Economics by Eric Butterworth
7. Way Of The Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman
8. Get Happier & Heathier Now by Ell Graniel
9. Way of Mastery by Jeshua ben Joseph
Q4. What’s your favorite spot to visit in your own country? And what makes it so special to you?
La Jolla, California is my favorite place to visit. I grew up there on Mt. Soledad and have so many childhood memories.
Q5. Is there lots to do before you drive in and start writing a book?
No. Let the book come to you, the rest will follow as it needs to. Allowing the ideas to flow so what is coming through your exposes itself to be what you are desiring to create.
Q6. How long did it take you to write ‘The Benefits of the “Ex”: Making Love Visible When Everything Changes’ book?
Q7. On what all platforms readers can find ‘The Benefits of the “Ex”: Making Love Visible When Everything Changes’ book to buy?
Amazon, Barnes & Noble, your local books seller and order for you. The ISBN is open.
Q8. Tell us about the process of coming up with the book cover and the title ‘The Benefits of the “Ex”: Making Love Visible When Everything Changes’ ?
My former husband handed me a monthly check and I said, “there are so many benefits to an ex” and from there the first half of the title came into creation. He said I could take the idea and book all the way to Oprah!
I also knew a self help book had to have an “ing” creating movement for a reader to grow. Not sure how this would form up, it came one day to me. A friend hopped out of my car and said, “June, you make love visible where ever you go”. I became still with the thought and with time, began to understand that it was just that, making love visible, that was important, especially when everything changes and with that the rest of the book fell into order. It was really miraculous!
Q9. When writing a book how do you keep things fresh, for both your readers and also yourself?
Fresh often means introducing new alternatives of thinking in order for different ways to living occur. The book offers this by way of what one might call exercises. I call them “invitations”, not required but certainly well worth looking at for ones self to grow and change.
Q10. Are there any secrets from the book (that aren’t in the blurb), you can share with your readers?
Let it rub you the wrong way and be willing to look at it with non-judgment. See that it just is and ask your Self, do you want to continue feeling this or are you open for change. The secret is, if you already have the book in your hands… you are calling it in now. Go for it. It’s your life, go ahead and get into what is really waiting for you!
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